YES WE DO.
I read a book called " The Birth Order Book" by Kevin Lehman. And after reading it I would have sworn ( that is if I swear) that he knew my sisters and I. He had us pegged. And we were a perfect case study. With us all being females and born 3 years apart. It changes things a little if there are four or more, if there are children of the opposite sex, or if there are several years between the siblings.
( there's even more inter sting variables but you will have to read the book) which I recommend). But I will give you a little summary of how he describes the first born, middle child ( ME) and the baby of the family. And this will help you know my sisters and I even more
The first born: can you guess any traits this special child has.. Does bossy come to mind, how about this is the sign of natural leaders. You’re a take-charge person. because “oldest kids are planners,” says Dr. Lehman. You’re also old-fashioned (in a good way). You always come through on anniversaries and Valentine’s Day.
Now this describes my older sister perfectly. Growing up whenever we had a problem she always knew just what to do. To this day she is the one who remember to send cards and phone calls for all occasions. As far as bossy goes. I wouldn't call her bossy ( well at least not here because she reads this blog... haha just kidding) but we did always call her our "other mom" She did like to act like she wasn;t "one of the girls" but our superior. But I love having an older sister. And I have the best older sister.
Middle child : middle kids actually make stable and loyal partners. “One thing you’re not is spoiled,” Dr. Lehman says. You probably grew up feeling like you got less attention than your siblings, and that drives you to work for every perk .You’re “a compromiser and negotiator... middles hate conflict); instead, you try to put others at ease..
Yea I would say this sounds like me... if you ask my sisters I have lots of stories where I feel like I had an unfair advantage, felt left out, didn't get as much attention. ( More on these stories) But you do feel that you are not old enough to do certain things but then you don't get out of doing things because you are too small. I may joke and complain and my sisters tease me about my issues..... Including... always having to sit in the middle, having to sleep in the floor at hotels, having to pick up after my younger sister because she was too "tired" and my older sister was busy with friends .. ok don't get me started on the issues. But there are definite good points. I got to share a room with both of my sisters, I have been close to them both, and as far as being a negotiator. that is definately me. i always kept the peace.
Youngest child: You’re all about fun. The most outgoing of all in the birth order spectrum, youngest children live to have a good time (it may be because your parents were more laid-back by the time you came along). some youngest children — not you, of course! — use that last-born charm and charisma to be a bit, ahem, manipulative, says Dr. Leman.
Yes this describes my younder sister.. She is so much fun and knows how to have a good time. She is very sponatanous ( one of the things I love about her). Growing up and still today...she always has lots of friend. And she is a great firend. And growing up I tease her that one of my Issues is that she used her cutestness to get what she wanted. Well I do have to admit that she was pretty cute. She also got out of doing the dishes on her night because she always conviently " had to go to the bathroom" just when it was time to clean. We still joke her about that to this day.
So yes middle children do have issues, but i think we also have some perks too( but shush, dont tell my sisters I said that)
So you can see that as a middle child I may have a few issues but I dont think I would want to be any other place..
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